My phone chimes with a text message, and it’s my brother with a wedding question:
“Cam wants to know how he tells people that he wants cash for their wedding- he doesn’t want a bunch of crap”
Flattered that baby bro thinks of me as the fabulous resource that I know I am, and acknowledging that he and his buddies are having some beers at the cottage & tact is not top of mind – the phrase “He wants cash for their wedding” scorches my retinas and I pound back my response:
“First, even if Cam only wants cash, he can’t ask for it, but here’s what he can do:
#1 DO NOT mention cash or the registry on the invitation!!! tacky, tacky, tacky
2) On Cam & Sara’s wedding website, mention how they are saving for a trip, new home etc… it’s a subtle hint that a gift of cash would help them get these things
3) Tell close friends & family that they’d prefer cash, and they can spread the message to other wedding guests.
Next, they should register and tell family & friends. Some people just want to buy couples a gift.
Register for low, medium and high priced items because people want to spend money on the couple.
Yeah, I’m a little chatty when I get fired up and luckily I have unlimited texts.
Registering mitigates the risk of getting “a bunch of crap” but doesn’t eliminate it. Guests might just get them a gift they think Cam & Sara will use, and they might be stuck with it… at least until you get married, then they can give it to you
“Thanks good info, Cam thanks you too – need another beer… laters!”